Saturday, January 21, 2017

The Diary of Zita Cecilia McNamara: Sex Ed

Editor's Note: Click HERE to read Dr. C's previous post on the origin of Zita's diary. This entry begins with 13-year-old Zita writing to her guardian angel, "Bishop."

Dear Bishop (Age 17, Day 15) Haven’t had much time to write. Working hard in school. I need your help. I need your prayers and strength so I may preserve my virginity. This is so important to me. I love Tom so much that I wish I could give myself to him completely, but I know better. It would not be love but selfish emotions. God and all, please grant me the graces to control my emotions. I love Tom so much. I want to marry him 8 years from now. Please make it come true. I, also, hope I attain my education at University of Michigan. Please help Tom. Help me. God help Tom spiritually. This is what he needs, and this is what I want to give.

Dear Bishop (Age 17, Day 16) I need Your help. Help me to make the right decisions with Tom. I must preserve my virginity and that means no petting and necking. So far I’ve done fine. No problems but I still need help. We both do. I love him; and so, I do not want to let him down. Today, we got the opportunity to kiss one another, and that was good. I’ll be glad when we can be alone and talk. About life—the funny things and the sad ones. I want him to be able to confide in me. Oh God, I love Tom. Thank You for letting me experience love. It is wonderful! It is good! Thank You!

Reflections: Well, in the 21st century, for many youngsters and parents, these entries may seem quite unrealistic and out and out ridiculous. What red-blooded female teen would even concern herself about preserving her virginity? Isn’t everybody “doing it”? Well, I was a red-blooded female teen when I wrote those passages so long ago. And I have shared them because, as I may have stated when I started this diary, I wanted to remember what it was like to be a teen in love and be able to share these feelings if and whenever I would have children.